The Stalker

Reaching out to people

Being called a weirdo more than I have sneezed have led to so much destruction to my self image. The important fact here is that I am healing and so are you. It’s a chance that comes with each day.
In this process of healing and finding answers to your persistent questions, communication is key.
In my yesterday’s article, I spoke about the gradual steps we can take to grow in the process phase of living. One of which I’ve been practising lately; communication.

In times of struggles and confusion it is good psychology to ask questions. Instead of chasing all you wish to do and comparing yourself to people you admire, it will be wise to reach out as much as possible and ask questions (there are still nice people in the world)

Two nights ago I was reading Mark Manson’s book just before bed. This part was centered on problem solving and I decided to carry out a small exercise before bed. I opened up a fresh page in my journal and tried to pen down all my disturbing problems, then the magic happened; I couldn’t just find them anymore. I found it silly that they weren’t coming off because I new they existed. They hunted me for crying out loud, I do feel them but I couldn’t just write them down. The ones I listed sounded more like me nagging.
Sillly world.
Have you been here before?

I have to tell you that this weird you, does have a twin. There’s someone out there ready to figure out your problems with you. Someone will fall in love with the real weird you.
That night I realised your problems show themselves when you’re not trying to find them. They pop up while you’re complaining and discussing… not when you’re with a pen trying to stab them right in the eye.

Problems are hot chicks that love to be acknowledged

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Communication helps healing. It is an exercise that opens your subconscious and your vulnerabilities. Talking to the right person sure helps you figure out your problems.
It’s more like an interview where every complain you drop is being questioned and just like a mother onion, every layer of your complain is being opened until you get to the core problem.
This thought was born from a conversation I had last night that left me ecstatic.
Sometimes we know what to do but don’t just do them till someone makes us know we have to take it seriously; that’s what my conversation with Elizabeth did for me. This is what the purple journal is about: helping you remember and take seriously all the things you know.

Thanks to Elizabeth’s readiness to listen to someone, most of my problems have been figured out and new commitments have been resolved.
I offer you what Elizabeth offered me last night:
How about you do this, take a break.

I accepted the break and asked her what it’s going to be like. Here are a few of my new commitments I’ll be taking down along side my September thoughts challenge:

• I’m going to stop constantly stressing and pondering on what to do and start.
• Take care of myself: That includes a new interest in body care and outfits. I hardly care about my outfit or appearance and for a growing lady, that’s too bad. I’ve been made fun of for appearing so unkempt, therefore it’s high time I grow up and start appearing intentional instead of looking like a chased mother hen. At least I’m sure my mom will notice this change.
• Learn: Instead of comparing and drooling over someone’s success, I’m going to take my stalking to the next level and really send off direct messages. There’s no harm in trying.
• Read: I’m about to step up my reading game. Just like what Aileen suggested, I’m going to read broad and far at my own pace.
• Podcasts: For an intending podcaster like me, it will be nice to learn by listening. I already have a list if podcasts to take seriously and that includes: Age of minority podcast, Lavendaire podcast, Hope and prose podcast… and more by popular successful people and ministers.
• YouTube videos : My data will perish but those videos will let my creative vision bloom. Just sitting back and watch people do their thing!
• Plant: I’ll keep trying to build my in house plants
• Music: I have more foreign music to catch up on. Even though I have no idea what the language is saying it sure sounds pretty to my ears…

Just merely a decision to sit back and relax. To use the available resources I have no matter how inadequate they are; That’s what artists do.

Learning can be tedious to me but by watching and following great people of our interest you never can tell when you’re learning or having fun.

We sure knew all these before now but that’s the point; to remind us and make us take them seriously.
You can never be too late. Take it easy, this is the process zone where we just live and things unfold by being intentional.

I designed a list of these new routines and before the end of today it’ll be hanging on the purple walls of my small room.
I do pray for the grace and strength to just hold on and stay committed to the small hard things.

Elizabeth Adewale is a beautiful young woman. She’s a new age blogger and mobile photographer. And what I love about her the most is that she’s trying to grow and she’s ready to help.
One of my favorite part of our conversation was when she said,
“Because you’re struggling doesn’t mean you can’t help others that are also struggling…”

That’s bold. That’s brave and that’s what I’m moving towards.
You can check her instagram page:
@theelizabethadewale

You can also visit her blog.

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here’s another amazing person you can check out on instagram @Oliviamorganwhite

Now go out there and be a bold brave curious not so annoying stalker! (I’m literally screaming) Start by building your community.

P. S This is not a sponsored post Just mere recommendations

feels good…..