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20 Fourth


MORNINGS FIRST

24 September 2019

During the final weeks to my previous semester exams, I got a book recommendation from Jeff Rose (A financial education YouTuber) and the name of that book is Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod.
The whole time I read that book, I experienced really clear physical changes. I established a consistent morning routine that didn’t clash with my class schedules.
I would go to sleep at 08 PM but if I had things to do, I made sure I was in bed before 09 PM (there were days when I went to bed at 10 PM). I would wake up at 02 AM and deal with school work till 05 AM (I had moments when I’ll close my school work and check YouTube or read a self-help book before I began studying). At 05 Am I would go out for a run. I use to detest exercising, I felt Iike it wasn’t necessary to stress myself so much (lazy mind).

As I kept on reading Miracle Morning, I continued running. As days went by, I found myself loving my life the more when I went out for a run (it was such a personal moment). I would appreciate the coolness of the morning, the gentle breeze, the tranquility that was so relaxing. I would walk by the places in my school that was usually rowdy, and knowing I was the first person to be there (alone!) that morning made me feel ridiculously good. During the day I had lots of energy to get down with aggressive classes and long walks to learning halls.

Fast forward, I am on vacation. I don’t wake up at 02 AM anymore but I do wake up at 05 AM (During the first weeks of my vacation, I would wake up at 10AM in the morning! That made me feel awful after a while).

I am ranting about my morning routine today because it’s the same reason I didn’t have any initial plan on what to write here. And it’s probably the same reason why you might feel overwhelmed during the day.
It’s not just waking up early that matters. What you do during the first hours of the morning does have an effect on the rest of your day. I feel like I need to go back and re-read the miracle morning… And I am recommending that book today.

MILLENNIAL MORNING


The ideal millennial morning starts by waking up when someone makes an obnoxious noise. It starts with a face that says, “I would have squeezed the life out of your voice if you weren’t my relative!” Some people do throw tantrums and pillows. The ideal millennial morning is guilty of grabbing on to the universe first thing in the morning. In an ideal millennial morning, the first things we do will include: checking up on other people’s exciting life, checking up on how many people realised how great we are or checking out what other people have to say about us. The average millennial morning starts with the mobile phone.

GUILTY

Maybe you have honestly made attempts to stay away from the internet first thing in the morning. Most days it works but some days you feel so desperate for acknowledgement. For me, my mobile phone is the first thing I grab on to because I have to turn off my alarm clock; I don’t necessarily go online first thing in the morning, yet I know I’m still doing it wrong.
I usually do my house chores before running into social media but I am still doing it wrong…

THEN WHAT AM I DOING WRONG???

Then what are we doing wrong? I’ll tell you; it’s the fact that we are not meditating and reflecting on our own lives in relation to others.

I do my chores before I bounce on media updates, still I don’t feel satisfied with this restriction. I have to clean the house, I have to prepare a blog post, I have to take a bus back home today and it’s a two hours drive, I have to…. You probably also have so much you have to do.

My blog post is based on thoughts and that’s where I lost it. I struggle to come up with an idea and it’s simply because I did every other thing in the morning aside thinking, reflecting and probably reading a book.
We are suppose to have moments in the morning where we sit quietly and think of our lives, think of our thought patterns, think of our relationships, think of our goals, our personalities and much more. We are suppose to look back and reflect and do what everyone finds weird, that is, talk out loud to ourselves (Don’t worry it’s early and no one is watching).

This activity can be enhanced by processing the information we already had from the previous day and taking regulated and intentional information in for the present day. It can be enhanced by the use of journals: To-do journals for highlighting our goals for the day. Expression journals for expressing our present emotions and thoughts. Gratitude journals for coming up with reasons to be relaxed and joyful (also hopeful).

When I said “regulated and intentional information”, what I meant was reading or listening to things that encourages us or prepares us for our task. It could be reading a small portion of a book, listening to already downloaded podcasts, audio books e.t.c. But these should be after sitting down in silence and embracing the new day we have before us.

If I had done this in the morning, I would have had a well thought out blog topic today. I would have discovered a feeling or idea that other people might probably be struggling with.
Yes, I wasn’t scrolling through instagram. I was actually watching YouTube videos that will help me with my bible study; it’s obvious I was doing the right thing at the wrong time.

I’ll probably be working on this and you also should. Let us take moments in the morning to acknowledge our thoughts.
I am writing this with my travel bag by my side, ready to lock the house up and hit the road. If I had planned my day intentionally and with more discipline, I probably wouldn’t be rushing things up now.

P. S Take a moment and acknowledge your thoughts. Filter them! I say with so much fulfilment that I shot the picture used for the post featured image. And like the fog in that picture, it’s your duty to clear up the fog in your mind before sunrise…

Recommendation: Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod.

If you struggle with your mornings, do leave a comment in the comment section below. Let us help ourselves…

From The Purple Journal with love and light.
XoXo

13irteenTh September

DO-MORE SYNDROME

13 September 2019

Do you feel restless and guilty when you’re not up to something? Have society stolen the joy of just being from you? Do you feel like you will never amount to anything because you’re simply not doing anything noteworthy now? Are you hurt?
Are you faced with what I resolved this morning to calling the Do-more syndrome?

It’s every where, in every story, every motivational line and dose. But is it worth the stress?

Here’s the thing, Philip has turned out to look like the ultimate goal getter. He has lines of journals with entries and ideas and he is moving towards it. He has eaten the Do-more message long enough to ignore every opposition. He sounds more like…
“This might be the only way and I’m taking it down.”
Thing is, he never gets satisfied. And though he has been up and doing always, he still doesn’t have any solid grip on any of his supposed achievement. There is nothing grand to right home about so he flushed every second of movement down in the toilet. There is no fulfilment, no acknowledgement, therefore he’s got to do more, think faster and smarter…. He’s got to slap the answers right our of his brains whether he does have the answers or not.
The legend we are all trying to be… The do-more strategist.
“If it’s not working, just don’t give up… Do more! “
Who else eats this message daily. The reason sitting down and doing nothing has become a sign of worthless and uselessness.
Phillip took the hard road, got knocked by a bus but he’s till moving. He’s got to do more. He had a cut right through his stomach last night but he’s got to aggrandize himself. He’s got something to prove. He’s got to prove he’s got success in his DNA. He feels entitled to recognition just like the other stars.
He rolled off the ladder while trying but he’s not letting go. He’s got cuts and wounds with massive release of blood but he’s still moving. Dripping red all over his path. The cuts are so deep you wouldn’t see it; I think it pierced right through his soul and left scars on his self image but he’s got to be strong… Go getter! Do-more syndrome man.

He will later end up on a far away medical bed. The one not seen around… Soon he’ll have doctors fighting to keep his wounded soul in his ripped body. I don’t know if he’ll give up and let the ghost go. I don’t know if he’ll keep fighting. I could relate to his mantra and blood, so I walked away… It was too brutal and I had to get a check up.
Are you Philip?

What will be the gain if gaining this fulfilment will leave you broken. When will you stop measuring your fulfilment on societal standards? When will you just let yourself grow?
Don’t you have any concern for a healthy, peaceful mind?

Just like Philip I have eaten a great dose of the do-more syndrome… The “it’s not enough to be needed by people” mindset. The mindset that makes your hands want to do something, but the thing is we just don’t have what it takes to do what the world calls great(maybe at the moment). I have lived in this hell and anxiety and I know it’s not pretty. I had to let go and move off.

Who said we can’t let go…

Well here’s what someone else said, Morgan Harper Nichols said “It’s okay to let go and seek peace of mind.” Those words pierced right through my soul, releasing all the unrealistic needs and expectations from my young self.
It lead me to saying out loud, “you’re too young to be carrying these lies on your shoulder.”
Who made you believe you’ve always got to be enough. Smart enough, wise enough, good enough, skilled enough.

I think we all need to start getting comfortable sleeping and waking up to doing the small things that are difficult to do. Maybe.
It’s okay to start as a mediocre. The wrong thing is thinking that’s all you’ll be. It’s that fear that makes you run after what the world wants…
Based on popular demand is a killer. Don’t look at it. Based on popular demand is a fallacy capable of keeping people slaves without chains.
Don’t be that guy!

Start getting consistent with the little things nobody really notices. That’s the hardest thing to do… Because it’s small yet difficult and no body gives you praise…

Gratitude, love, care for obnoxious siblings, sharing when you obviously hate sharing all you have, giving others a helping hand, saying the truth, waking up early, reading books, going on social media and being conscious not to compare, reading the Bible, praying for yourself and others…

Learn how to live without praise and know you’re still getting it done. That’s one good drug if you’ve recognized the do-more syndrome.

P. S If you still feel like you need something to do. Look around, someone close to you is struggling with a little task. Help someone and get a thank you.

Featured image credit goes to me and my phone!

Who said you had to carry the world in your shoulder. Heaven is so big yet not everyone will go to heaven…